Traits That Repel Chinese Women

When it comes to women, the ones in China hold a special place in the hearts of many all over the world. The perception is that they’re demure, loyal, and deferential to their husbands.

There are a lot of guys around the world that like those traits in a partner. But they forget one very important thing and that’s that Chinese women have certain standards. You can’t just land in China and immediately find a partner.

So you might think that you’re smooth and cool — maybe you are back on your own home turf. The problem is that China probably isn’t very different from where you’re from and your tactics may inadvertently display traits that repel Chinese women. So what happens when you end up striking out every time you step up to the plate?

And what exactly are these traits that make the stomachs of Chinese women curdle with disgust? What are these things that make a man out of the running for their hearts?

They’re not gentlemen.

Chinese women expect certain things when it comes to their suitors, one of which is to be gentlemen. This doesn’t mean just opening doors or walking on the safe side of the street, though you probably should do those things as well.

One thing that Chinese women like is when men hold their handbags. Those bags, so full of things and other trinkets, can get heavy. But a lot of guys don’t like holding women’s handbags. It makes them feel self-conscious and they think that the very act of holding something made for women makes them a lot less manly or they think they look ridiculous holding a handbag.

But if you’re comfortable with such a small gesture, perhaps finding a partner won’t be all that hard. But a guy who doesn’t may find that his journey is going to be a little bit harder.

They don’t dress well.

China’s recent economic upswing has created an urban populace that’s quite fashionable. Luxury fashion houses have found that their largest market has, for the last decade or so, been China. So the general populace knows how to dress fashionably and present themselves to the world and they’re going to want a partner who can do the same.

Now, you don’t have to show up dressed to the nines. That’s not what they want in a partner and it’s not exactly the most practical thing you can do.

But a lot of guys show up and they’re not dressed properly. Maybe they’re dressed in a T-shirt with a beer logo on it and wrinkled jeans. Not exactly something that it’s getting on the cover of a glossy fashion magazine.

So if you want to get with a Chinese woman, then you need to dress well. You don’t have to go all out, but you do need to be presentable.

They’re not communicative.

A lot of guys can be rather taciturn in nature. They’re not chatty and they don’t always reach out and they may take a while to text back.

Chinese women are not fans of that.

They like it when their men text them at least three times a day just to check-in. To them, it reeks of disinterest. If you’re not regularly checking in on her, in her mind it’s because you’re not serious about being in a relationship with her.

They’re not confident.

Confidence is seen as attractive and Chinese women are likely to agree with that sentiment. So if you approach them with the intent of eventually romancing them, you need to realize that he needs to do so with confidence.

A guy who lacks backbone isn’t going to be seen as particularly attractive in China and isn’t likely to get very far in his pursuit of a romantic relationship with a Chinese woman.

They don’t know about Chinese culture.

Chinese women aren’t going to be fond of a man who doesn’t respect their culture. If he doesn’t know how to properly use chopsticks, that’s fine. But if he outright mocks the food she grew up eating, that’s a huge red flag to them and they’re not likely to end up making him dinner in the future, because they won’t be married because she’s not going to want to pursue a romantic relationship with him.

They’re intimidated by her.

Some women prefer not to work and let their husbands take the reins and do the heavy lifting. But some women want to take over the world. Now, a lot of guys are put off by that. Maybe her being great makes him feel like he’s less than her. Maybe he’ll feel emasculated if she starts to make more money than her.

While a lot of Chinese women do lean more traditional when it comes to their careers and their home lives, a good number of them are becoming more and more modern and want things like their own careers and independence.

So if you approach them like you’re scared of them, you aren’t going to be the kind of guy that they want to end up with.

They’re not serious about a committed relationship.

A lot of guys come to China for a good time, but not for a long time.

But a long time is what a lot of Chinese women want. They’re not looking for a quick fling, they’re looking for the real thing. If you’re looking for a quick fling, you won’t find the warmest of receptions in China.

If you want to find romantic success in China, you should want that romance to last for a span of time longer than a few weeks, such as a lifetime.

There are a lot of things that outsiders do in China that Chinese people like, like how friendly they are. But there are a lot of things that they don’t like as well, like how casual they are. Knowing what these traits are will help a foreigner navigate China, and its dating scene, more effectively.