The Right Approach to Dating a Chinese Woman

When you are dating someone from a foreign country, it can be tough to adapt to their cultural norms. All the more tough when you’re trying to learn their language.

You’ve touched down in China for business or personal reasons. Your trip is going to take a while, so while you’re there, you think “Might as well give it a shot here” because who knows? You might possibly find the love of your life in this country.

For a better chance of success, it’s best to orient yourself with how dating and romance are done in this East Asian country. The more familiar you are with their culture, the more effective your advances will be.

So what exactly should you do to win her over?

To start off, try to figure out what you are looking for in a Chinese woman. It’s not unusual for a Chinese woman to expect marriage when your relationship goes well. There is a societal expectation for these women to be wed before their 30s. It’s the best age for them to conceive a child and have a family to call their own.

Some Chinese women are perfectly fine with taking it slow and experimenting with different kinds of relationships. They are curious to experience what it’s like to date someone from foreign lands.

These women are often the ones who lead a comfortable (read: luxurious) life and are still figuring out what they want in a partner. Their standards in men are quite high, which can make the search a tad bit difficult for them.

Whichever the case, there is still the pressure for these women to find a husband and start a family. In short, China is a gold mine of opportunities for you to find someone to share the rest of your life with.

If you prefer to date Chinese women with the intent to marry, you’ll have better luck finding them through matchmaking services. They are quite common in China and sometimes, they even have a fair where parents would hang up a picture and a brief profile of their children in hopes of finding them a good match.

And if dating curious but genuine women is more up your alley, it pays to explore the city first. You’ll be much better at delivering endearing pick-up lines and romantic gestures when you get to know what it takes to impress a Chinese woman.

Dating norms will depend on where you are in China. People in the big cities in particular have conflicting views on marriage. Some are quite progressive, while some would prefer to stick to tradition.

Far-flung areas in China have always embraced conventional ways of marriage. It’s a standardized belief that marriage should come after completing their education. However, they may not be very welcoming to foreign suitors, but it would always depend on the family of the woman you are interested in.

It’s best to familiarize yourself with the ins and outs of the Chinese dating culture. That way, you know exactly what you’re getting into.

Take the time to get to know their habits and nuances. When you feel right at home, approaching them for a date will be easy as pie.